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This is the blog I've been avoiding writing, because I've been in denial about its subject matter. But recent events have jolted me out of my happy denial.
Christmas...is going to suck this year. And not because of anything I've done, or anything that has happened to me or the kids, etc., etc.
It's because of my sister...
My friends and long time readers will know that I'm not close to my sister. She makes things very...difficult.
She's an emotionally abusive alcoholic. She's 36 and has probably been a full blown alcoholic for about the last 8 years, and had a drinking problem since she was 18. But she's one of those extra-fun alcoholics whose in total denial. Even after several DUIs which resulted in long periods of her losing her liscense, and being so desperate for a drink that she's drank mouthwash, cooking wine and hand sanitizer, she still refuses to admit she's dependant, addicted.
She likes to say that she's in a dark place. Yes, the dark place of...alcoholism.....hatefulness, bitterness, alienation by design.
But this month she's found out that she's likely going to be getting a divorce.
She has been married about five years...to my brother ibn law who I've never really liked or been close to because he's always seemed shady to me...and he's a big pussy too, but I digress.
She's been scared into temporary sobriety because she says she says she wants to fight for her marriage.
I want to be supportive, but knowing all of the history, and being witness to it, I can't help thinking she deserves to get a divorce. After all the horrible shit she's done to me, and people I love, the way she's skated thru life consequance-free with slaps on the wrist, the way my mother always bails her out and takes nothing but abuse for it, I'm just a little happy she's finally gonna have to pay the piper.
And that also makes me feel crappy.
So I try to be supportive. I called her last night and told her I knew what she was dealing with sucked, but whatever the outcome, it was good that she wasn't drinking, and I wanted her to keep not drinking because then she'd be healtier.
I worry about her because she looks horrible. She's not healthy and she's stick-thin. She's in her mid 30s and looks like she is in her mid to late 40s.
I want to be supportive because I love her.
I have kids tho and the business and a social life. I have a life. And spending too much time around my sister, she becomes like a cancer.
What do I do????
How can I make this Christmas not suck, aside from totally avoiding her? (which, by the way, is an impossibility in my family since my mother won't allow that)
Do any of you have experience or insight?
I want to have a good Christmas. I want it drama-free, but I know my sister will make it drama central.
I want to be with the people I love and have a Christmas to remember for good reasons.
Lil' help here??